First and foremost, The purpose of this blog is to follow our journey as we write about our experiences writing a book and healing from the long term effects of bullying.
Self Harm is such a hard thing to watch happen to someone you love. While I am doing everything I can to protect my daughter, sometimes I feel it is not enough.
I am human, I am capable of showing a little weakness.
After venting my frustrations to a close family member, they relayed it to a their significant other.... Would not usually be a problem but when you dont know the whole situation, and you dont see it through my eyes, you cant judge decisions that I have had to make. Yes, I showed weakness, feeling like a failure for not being able to help my daughter. I know that this is not my fault. I did not bully her. She did not ask to be bullied. Depression and PTSD is a horrible thing. It is so hard to watch your child suffer and not be able to help.
Anyways, days later, the close family members significant other was "venting frustrations also" stating that they didnt want to give us a dog we were planning on adopting, because I didnt "want my daughter"
1. to the person who said this. YOU DONT UNDERSTAND WHAT WE ARE GOING THROUGH. you are a third party and not seeing it through my eyes. When you have a daugher, and she goes through the same situation, and she keeps backtracking. THEN, maybe then, you can relate to me.
2. to the close family member who wronged me. Your first duty is to protect your blood relatives, by allowing your significant other to talk "trash" about myself and my family that is not loyalty. Regardless of how you feel about the situation you dont know the whole of it.
Bullying needs to stop. YOu dont realize the effect of it until time later. Theres flashbacks, hurt, anger, worry, anxiousness and just a few to name what we are going through. As a mother, it is so hard to do everything your supposed to, and still see your child suffer.
If you or you know someone who is being bullied, get help. Talk to a responsible adult, a teacher, your parents, someone you trust. Dont wait to get help
For parents of those bullied, fight for what you know is right. Make sure youknow your states bullying laws. Be proactive. Ask your children specifically if anyone is bothering them
- CONNIE :)
